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Attorneys: A History of Helpfulness


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Attorneys: A History of Helpfulness

Attorneys in our day are often called bottom feeders, ambulance chasers or worse. I am an attorney in private practice, and it is my mission to show you that the law is a calling filled with noble and enthusiastic people who are doing the job to help others. The law can be incredibly confusion, and it seems to change drastically day by day. Attorneys are there to help clients navigate the murky waters of legal issues and find the most appropriate solution to problems they face. So don't think of a lawyer as the bad guys. Lawyers help people, and this blog will teach you how.

How to Handle an Ex Who's Trying to Stop Your Divorce

Anyone listening to an ex who is threatening to stop the divorce process is likely to feel a lot of stress. They may also wonder if their ex can jam up the process. This is a good time for them to think like a divorce lawyer, so let's look at what an attorney will probably recommend.

Get Counsel

It might be a good idea to work with a law firm because that takes the one-on-one confrontation with your ex out of the way. If they have a strong need to discuss the legal merits of trying to stop a divorce, they're welcome to contact your attorney. This saves you the grief of listening to half-baked ideas about why you can't end the marriage.

Understand No-Fault Divorce

Even in states that allow at-fault divorce cases, the no-fault process is the de facto law of the land. Fault-based divorce is not even an option in many states. Even when it is possible, it doesn't serve much purpose unless one party stands to gain significant money or assets from proving fault.

However, a court handles the money issues in divorce law usually by applying a set of calculations. The length of the marriage matters, as does how much support a disadvantaged partner might need.

What seldom matters is who did what. The no-fault system simply accepts it at face value if one of the two partners in a marriage says it's over. A person informs the court they have irreconcilable differences with their spouse, and that's it.

Build in Some Time

Your divorce lawyer will need time to draft documents, and you'll also have to sort things out like assets, debts, child and spousal support, and child custody. Likewise, your divorce attorney will send the papers to the court, and they also have to serve your ex. Be patient with the process.

Unfortunately, the time from filing a divorce suit to a judge granting it varies from state to state. Some states have cooling-off periods requiring the parties to wait and see if they're serious about divorce. Other states will process cases as fast as their family court systems can handle them.

The big thing to remember is that no matter what they say, your ex-partner can't stop the divorce if you want it. At worst, you'll have to wait several months until your state's cooling-off period expires. Once that happens, the case goes forward and the divorce happens.

To learn more, contact a divorce lawyer in your area.